Ok...so I had to submit an article to the editorial board for the Valentine's edition. I've to admit I was a bit hesistant at first, being so inexperienced about love. Nevertheless, this is what I came up with ( please don't laugh at me! :p)
Being single... and available.....
So Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. Orders for fresh bouquets of flowers are being placed. Posh and fancy restaurants with candlelit settings are being booked well in advance for the day. Love messages are being exchanged via all sort of mediums- the SMS ( most popular), on air, or the humble snail mail for those who want to adhere to traditional ways. Yes, it’s that time of the year again- when everyone gets all lovey-dovey, and have this warm fuzzy feeling in their hearts. Those who are attached would be planning for that special day- where to take their loved one to, what to buy for their other half, what exactly to wear for the occasion, etc.
As for me, it’s just going to be yet another uneventful day in my life as an IMU student. Lectures in the morning, maybe a bit of studying at night. And maybe attending the talk organized by CF on ‘How to find the love of your life’.
Yeap, I’m still single just in case you’re wondering. I’ve managed to stay single for the 24 years of my life so far, and I don’t expect that to change anytime soon.
Why, you may ask? Maybe it’s due to the fact that I have observed since young how my mum has tough luck when it comes to men- thus carving in me the mentality that I can survive without them. I don’t know.
But lately I’ve been pondering on whether I’m missing out on something by being single. The realisation has just hit me that time is ticking , and maybe it’s time I starting looking for Mr.Right. Because before I know it, I would be celebrating my 30th birthday….still being single. And I’ll watch ‘Bridget Jones’s Diary’ and thinking to myself how much I can relate to her.
People around me are starting to fall in love. We’ve just finished one semester here in IMU and already I can notice some newly formed couples in my batch. Not to mention many other couples from senior batches. When I log onto Friendster, I see friends uploading photos of themselves with their girlfriends/boyfriends. One friend of mine wrote in her Friendster blog about how her guy actually planned a romantic night out for them recently, with the flowers and dinner and all that, knocking her off her feet in awe.
When I switch on the radio, love songs dominate the airwaves. Switch on the TV, I see dramas, soap operas, movies and romantic comedies- all involving people falling in love. Romance novels can be found in almost every bookstore. ( I, for one, am a fan of these).
Curious, I asked my housemate how is it like to be in a relationship and attached to someone. She admits that one thing she misses is her freedom. Her guy calls her up almost every night to ensure that she is back home early. He doesn’t like the idea of her going out late at night, not particularly with guy friends. (Talk about having an extra parent!)
What about if your relationship doesn’t work out in the end and you both breakup? Imagine having to go through all the pain, the heartache, the sleepness nights, the times you spend staring blankly at your plate of food and staring blankly at your lecture notes in front of you, thinking of him/her or mourning over the good old times you had together? And then crying over the next love song that comes on the air because the lyrics suddenly apply to you? How many people have committed suicide due to being heartbroken over love?
Don’t get me wrong, it’s totally alright to fall in love, if the right person comes to you.
When two people fall in love, the pure and true feelings for each other that comes with it is cannot be described. They cannot stop thinking about each other day and night. I’ve yet to experience the euphoric feeling that comes with being in love, maybe it’ll come to me in the future.
Until then, I’ll continue dreaming of the time when someone will finally fall in love with humble old me- present me with flowers and jewellery on my birthday and during Valentine’s Day, bring me to posh restaurants totally at his own expense, and most important of all accept me for who I am. I’ll keep on dreaming…..
p/s: This writer wants the readers to know that she’s still single and is perfectly happy being single. However, should any guy be interested in her, she is open to any possibilities……
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